Lots of misunderstandings about ADHD are flying around out there. Often what you see is not what you get.
What’s visible is the opposite of what’s happening beneath the surface.
Over the next few weeks we’ll dig deeper into three of the most common ADHD misunderstandings I come across.
ADHD is tons easier to deal with when you know the facts and understand what’s really going on.
ADHD Misunderstanding #1 – Change Isn’t Always Good
Observe a person with ADHD and you might conclude they thrive on change. After all, who do you know who’s more inconsistent than someone with attention deficit?
We say one thing and do another. Our plans shift in midstream. We dive head first into a hobby or exercise program only to abandon it in a couple of weeks.
Our resumes are long with multiple career changes. I mean total career changes; not just logical advancements. The thought that someone with ADHD can get their resumes down to one page is a laugh.
Though on the surface it looks like we love change, that’s only half the story. My experience with myself and my ADHD coaching clients proves otherwise.
In reality ADHD adults adore change when they’re the ones doing the changing.
We can change jobs. We can shift plans. We can abandon hobbies and exercise programs. But, we get downright cranky when someone else springs a change on us.
No wonder ADHD adults are misunderstood!
We crave stability and structure. In fact, we plan on the stability of other people to provide our structure. When the people who provide our scaffolding of support shift their plans we get thrown off balance.
Even something as simple as a last minute change in dinner plans can make us uncomfortable. Bigger changes imposed on us by someone else are even worse. Changes like shifting jobs or moving.
Yet we can quickly instigate any manner of changes in a flash and wonder why other people get tense.
It’s a big ADHD misunderstanding that idea that we like change. If truth, we only like certain kinds of change. The change we bring about.
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